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Our Fairytale Scottish Wedding at Coo Cathedral

I am back! I have finally gotten my shit together after what feels like an eternity. What was supposed to be a 2 week break from the blog while I focused on my family and wedding. Turned into 2 months! I think I could become the poster child of what a stressed out person looks like. But things have settled and I am ready to get back in to life. So where do I start? So much seems to have happened since my last post. I lost some weight, I bought some new tops .. and oh I got married!!! This is our Scottish Wedding at Coo Cathedral.

I remember sitting down to lunch with one of my old friends who was reminiscing about her wedding. She turned to tell me that “Your wedding day will be the best day of your life”. I remember smiling and thinking how could it be? I have a child. The best day of my life is the day that Gabriel was born. I still remember that feeling of meeting my baby for the first time. Nothing can ever be better than that.

But she was right ( to an extent). The day Gabriel was born was the best day of my life, but so was the day I married my partner, lover and friend. Nothing prepared me for how emotional and fulfilling this day was going to be. A day of pure happiness, joy and love, that I wish I could relive again and again.

Here is a recap of our Fairytale Scottish Wedding Coo cathedral!

The day started in Aboyne at Lys-na-greyne where the owners of this stylish B&B were just delightful and made our wedding weekend really feel special. Joyce cooked all of us a lovely breakfast before heading upstairs to start with hair and makeup. With a little music and prosecco we got pampered and ready for the big day.

After some laughs and giggles things got real, and my bridesmaids had to help me get into my dress.

After a few photos and last minute make up touch ups it was time to head to St Thomas church and tie the knot.

The Church

While the girls got ready in their satin robes, the boys had some photo fun outside of the church showing off their mini kilts!

It was time. I remember feeling slightly nauseous with emotion. I couldn’t believe the it is happening.

The ceremony was lead by Reverend Vittoria Hancock which was beautiful. I was unable to get through my vows because I was so emotional.

We are husband and wife! Ceremony over, we headed outside to get some photos with our little baby bear. Unfortunately he was overwhelmed and tired, and wasn’t up to posing for photos.

The grounds of St Thomas are beautiful and with lots of tall tress which was a perfect setting for a few photos.

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Coo Cathedral

After some photos at St Thomas, we headed to Coos Cathedral in Aboyne to take a few more photos on the castle estate and then start the reception in the beautiful converted cow barn. The venue was everything that we had hoped for. It is romantic and rustic and really played on the whole Scottish theme we wanted for our wedding.

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Scottish Wedding Coo cathedral

Our guests sat outside on hay bales and tucked in to canapés and prosecco before being called in for the Wedding Breakfast. For our gin lovers, we hired Tipple in a Tuk Tuk, who had a vast array of different Scottish gins for our guests to enjoys as well as a Pimp my prosecco table. This little Tuk Tuk was a great addition to our wedding. Not only did it look great, the gin cocktails were amazing. My only regret is that I was away taking photos and only got to enjoy one glass before we were called in for Breakfast.

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A lot of the decorations were sourced by myself and put up the day before the wedding with the help of our amazing friends and family. We couldn’t have done it without you, Thank you !

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Decorations & Catering

My Step Mother in law made Scottish Tablet for our favours and also made some of the decorations. There are three alcoves in Coos Cathedral and we filled them with little treats and activities for our guests. We had a candy cart by Candy Corner and Ferrero Rochers tables, a rustic styled Photo Booth by Sillysnapz and a handmade photo washing line with photos of us over the years with all of our guests.

Our caterers were Country flavours who we cannot praise enough. There food is absolutely amazing and everyone was well fed on the day. We used Coast Entertainment to source our band. We chose The Veronas from Glasgow who went above and beyond to make sure our day and wedding songs were just how we wanted. They were brilliant and had the dance floor occupied the whole night.

After 2 long years of preparing and organising, our wedding day had finally come and it was everything we had hoped for. Seeing the love and joy from all of our friends and family as Lee and I officially became one is something we will cherish for the rest of our lives. Thank you to everyone who made this day so special.

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All photos taken by Rublislaw Studios

Suppliers

Brides Dress : The House of Oscar Lili Edinburgh

Bridesmaids Dress : Brides Selection Australia

Kilts : Royal Pride Tartan from McCalls

Church : St Thomas

Venue : Coos Cathedral Aboyne Castle Estate

Caterer : Country Flavours of Alford

Florist : Secret Garden

Band : The Veronas

Photo Booth : SillySnapz

Candy Cart : Candy Corner Scotland

Stationary: The Papeterie

Festoon Lighting : Event FX

Photographer : Rublislaw Studios

 

 

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Get Glamorous Hair : Add Volume with Micro Bead Hair Extensions!

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I have always wanted to get hair extensions. A lot people who know me are probably reading this and thinking ‘ Whaaaat’! Yes I know, I already have quite long hair. But it is not about length. Despite having long hair, the one thing that my hair lacks is thickness. And that make all the difference.

I cannot pull of the sleek straight look. I end up looking like someone has just poured a bucket of water over my head because it is so flat to my scalp. I also have trouble achieving glamorous voluminous waves no matter how many times I curl my hair. Thin hair is thin hair no matter what you do.

So with my upcoming nuptials and my recent vow to get out of Frumpy-ville. I decided to take the plunge and I absolutely love it.

After doing some research, I chose to go to Salon 70 on Great Western Road here in Aberdeen. Sarah is the expert ( and yes she is the gorgeous mum from my frumpy post, check it out here) She will tell you exactly what you need as soon as she sees your hair.

I was a little hesitant at first as I have heard all of the horror stories and the last thing I want is to go bald just before my wedding. However Sarah was quick to put me at ease by explaining her technique. She uses micro beads with little silicone hooks to attach the extention to your hair. The pros are that is doesn’t do any damage to your hair at all. The con is that if not looked after properly the beads can slide and slip off.

All the hair she uses are 100% human hair and she will colour test your hair before you make your appointment to get them attached. It usually takes 1-2 days for your extensions to arrive and once she has them you are ready to go.

Prices vary depending on what you are looking to achieve and what texture your hair is. As I didn’t need to add a lot of length and just wanted volume and thickness we went for half a head which was 180£. Once you have paid for the hair, then the big cost is done. After that it is just getting them reattached every 10 weeks.

The whole session took just under 2 hours and I am really happy with the results. My hair looks so glamorous I can’t stop staring at it in the mirror! Sarah will supply you with your own special brush and instructions on how to look after your extensions. You must use a silicone and sulphate free shampoo, luckily for me I already do. Check out my post here for more information. My hair is thick and soft to touch and I can now pull off the sleek look.

Now I have no worries for my wedding day!

My hair just after getting it styled by Sarah 3 weeks ago!

My hair now!

What do you think? Have you had extensions before?

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Why I Won’t Give My Son Cow’s Milk

As my son was approaching his 1st year, I could hardly believe how quickly time had past. My little chubby cherub was no longer a baby. He was approaching Toddlerhood. He could eat the big kids snacks. He could get fitted for his first shoes and of course he no longer needed breastmilk or formula. I was so excited to start this new journey. However when our health visitor strongly advised that we continue to give him 2 of bottles of full fat cows milk a day. My stomach turned. I didn’t want to give him cow’s milk and here is why

I am usually one to follow the advice of a health professional but this advice did not sit well with me. I hate cow’s milk. No scrap that. I absolutely love it, I could drink glass after glass when I was younger. Don’t even mention the word cheese to me. Having lived in France for 8 years cheese had become a part of my existence. No I love the taste of cows milk and all things made from cows milk, but its affects on the body, I hate.

Strong bones…or not

More and more health professionals are now advising against cow’s milk but why? With more research being conducted on the subject, new information about the real benefits of dairy have come to light. Previously praised for its bone enhancing abilities. Scientists now claim that it actually does the opposite. Countries with the lowest dairy consumption are those with the lowest rates of osteoporosis. How can this be? If dairy is full of bone fortifying calcium and minerals then how is it that the countries that consume the biggest amount of dairy and milk products have the highest rate of osteoporosis and lactose intolerance?

A study done on women in Sweden found that those who consumed more than 3 glasses of milk a day doubled their mortality rate.  The thing is that cows milk does contain a lot of calcium and vitamins. However our fragile little human digestive systems are just not able to process it like calves can. And that is where the problem lies. Cows milk is made for calves who have four digestive compartments in their stomachs. When humans drink it, it puts a massive strain on our digestive system. Causing inflammation which can lead to asthma, allergies and digestive issues such as IBS and even autoimmune diseases.

Better For Your Gut Without It

So why am I against dairy? As much as I love cheese, cream and yogurt, I have experienced a change in my health and digestion when I decided to cut it out. Once I stopped dairy my usually slow digestive system improved and general state of health felt a lot better because of it. My brothers who have suffered from severe eczema their whole lives have experienced significant improvements since cutting dairy. With them now being able to reduce their use of steroid creams and treatments.

So what do I do?

Considering all of the above, the idea of feeding my son 2 bottles of cows milk a day leaves a pit in my stomach. Could I be opening him up to digestive issues and allergies by giving him cows milk? If he no longer needs breastmilk, and I don’t want to feed him cows milk then what do I give him?

There are a lot of milk replacements out there, but which one is better for my son? In my household, we are nut milk drinkers. I drink almond milk and my partner drinks hazelnut. Though these are better than cows milk in my opinion, store bought nut milks are not as nutritious as homemade nut milk. Some brands only have 2% of nuts in their ingredients! Along with another array of ingredients I cannot pronounce. So do we ditch milk all together? Or do i start squeezing almonds to get the purest form of milk possible for my tot?

Got Goat’s Milk

With a bit of research i quickly discovered that Goat’s milk is a healthier alternative to Cow’s. Goats milk is easier to digest. It has less curd and contains less lactose. With fewer allergic proteins in the milk it does not cause as much inflammation in the gut like cows milk does and is full of minerals and vitamins. It also contains a higher amount of probiotics, which feed the good bacteria in your gut thus promoting a healthy digestive system.

My son loves it and while he is still young and growing. I will continue to use goats milk for his digestive system.

What are your thoughts?

 

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Stop Slut Shaming: Empower women instead of slut shaming!

During a catch up with old friends and family, I noticed a mentality that disturbed me somewhat. A way of thinking that I had not seen since my teenage years, and that in my opinion has no place in this day and age amongst adults.

While casually chatting with some of the girls about life, the topic of conversation turned to relationships. Asking one of my single friends if she was seeing anyone, she went on to say that she had just split from someone. She then proceeds to tell me how many men she has slept with, and how difficult it is to find a nice guy with the amount of ‘sluts’ around. Taken aback a bit, I carried on with my night slightly disturbed at her comments as I watched her commenting and judging other women based on their make up and dress sense throughout the night.

“I watched her commenting and judging other women”

As the night went on, I could see there was hostility from the group towards one girl in particular who to me, seemed like a generally nice girl. During dinner the next night a male friend of mine turned to me and said ‘I cannot stand that girl. I don’t like her hanging out with my girlfriend because she is a hoe!’.

When I tried to get an explanation as to why she was a ‘hoe’, What I got disturbed me. Apparently the only reason this girl was not welcome into their group of friends was because she had, on occasion, intimate relations with men she was not in a serious relationship with.

Now my friend is far from innocent when it comes to the opposite sex. He is known for being a player. He is one of those men that would sleep with any girl who would allow it and then turn around and call them all sluts for being too easy. What disturbed me the most is that during this conversation another one of the girls at the table instantly agrees with my friends view on this poor girl. Then proceeds to tell us that she has only slept with 2 men her whole life! By which, she is praised by the others at the table for having such a ‘low’number!. I could not believe my ears! Were we still in high school? Was this really a conversation I was having with adults??

“Were we still in high school? Was this really a conversation I was having with adults?”

As I thought about the events that had taken place that night, I was infuriated. What did those girls think they achieved by telling everyone how many men they had slept with? Did they think that that made them better than anyone else? That by having a low number meant they were more worthy, more deserving of love? More girlfriend material?

Was it was ok for that girl, who chose to enjoy her sexuality, to be immediately branded a slut and treated as instant trash because of it. And the men? Most of them notorious for being players themselves. Constantly ogling anything in a skirt, flashing their double standards in front of everyone as if it were completely normal! They can ogle, cheat and sleep around all they want but if a women is comfortable with her sexuality then she is an instant slut and is thrown to the wolves as soon as they’re done!

“If a women is comfortable with her sexuality then she is an instant slut”

The sad thing is that I used to be one of those girls. Growing up in a family with an asian background and strong religious beliefs, the subject of sex is a huge taboo. Sex is a sin and is an act carried out between man and wife. A wife’s duty to her husband. Sexual desires or urges as a woman were never discussed and was usually frowned upon. This was taught down from the older generations, from our grandparents day and age.

Don’t get me wrong, I believe that morals and self respect are very important and that children should be taught this from a young age. However I also believe that they should be taught to respect and empower each other. For young minded individuals it is important to be cautious. It is important to understand and practise self respect when it comes to the opposite sex, especially for young girls. But there is a fine line between teaching self respect and teaching girls that it is shameful to be confident in their bodies.

“Why is it that we have such a slut shaming culture?”

Why is it that we have such a slut shaming culture? How do we live in a so called ‘modern’ society, yet still have views about women that belong in the middle ages? I think  religion has a lot to do with this attitude. In the days of ancient civilisations and paganism, women were rejoiced, seen as goddesses. If she chose you, then it was a damn honour to be chosen. Roll on a couple of centuries and women were seen as inferior, temptresses. If a man was overcome with lust it was the woman’s fault not the mans.

Even though we have come along way from those times. This general attitude still seems prevalent. What strikes me the most is that this attitude is not only enforced by men but by women too.

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“What strikes me the most is that this attitude is not only enforced by men but by women too”

This needs to stop! We need to empower one another. The reason I have this blog is to help empower and inspire people to be happy with themselves. I am NOT a feminist, I am a humanist. I believe EVERYBODY no matter what gender, religion, ethnic background or whatever, deserves to be happy and live a fulfilled life.

So lets stop these negative attitudes! Sex is a natural act that when performed amongst consenting adults can be a beautiful act of love. Monkeys, apes and dolphins are known to enjoy sex with one another for reasons other than reproducing and I honestly do not see them slut shaming their females for it afterwards!!! Being comfortable and confident in one’s body should be praised not ridiculed!

“Let Stop Slut Shaming”

So if you see a girl who is wearing a tight, short dress, admire her confidence instead of shaming or judging her. Let her confidence inspire you. And if you are lucky enough to meet a woman that lets you close to her in anyway then you should be GOD DAMN proud that SHE chose YOU instead of putting her down for it!

Shaming her after such an honour reflects more your issues than hers. And that goes for men too, men and women deserve to be respected and not judged based on their past choices, how they dress or what they choose to do in the privacy of their own homes. As long as they are not harming anyone else then it is none of your business.

So lets empower each other instead of putting each other down. The world is a better place when it is full of happy people!

xxx

 

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