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Parenthood is so life changing that you almost don’t know what hit you. Raising a little one, whether they are babies, toddlers, pre-teens or teenagers is the most important and difficult job you will ever do. The MUM Life  consumes and becomes you.

I remember when I was a kid I would look at my parents and I thought they knew everything. I thought that had everything together. I had no idea the pressure and fear they must have felt every time I entered a new phase of life.  Now as a parent, I realise that no one knows what they are doing. Parenting is basically just winging it and hoping you raise happy, respectful kids. AND the scary part is that my son probably looks at me the same way and thinks I have all the answers.

This section of the blog is dedicated to all my fellow mothers. I don’t know what I am doing. I am learning as I go along. However here I will document what I have learnt along the way to hopefully help you. To give you hope and let you know that we are all in this together.

Preparing For Parenthood : The Fear of The First Time Mum

As my due date approaches, it has suddenly dawned on me that I am completely unprepared for the drastic turn my life is about to take. Not only have I not packed my hospital bag, I have not bought any baby clothes, nursing bras or any other baby / mum to be essentials that I will desperately need in the coming future and the nursery is far from ready.

In an attempt to get organised, I set out to buy all these ‘essentials’ and ended up scaring my self more than anything. Buying little boots, hats and rattles was somewhat weird and fun at the same time, but stepping into boots to see the array of mum to be hospital toiletries made my blood curdle. Seeing a vast selection of vaginal massage oils for rips and tears is enough to make anyone run screaming, which was exactly what I did. Knowing I will eventually have to buy all of these things, I sit here and realise that even though I am fully aware that I am pregnant, that my belly has become a huge beach ball which feels like it is going to explode at any moment; it has not completely sunk in that in 5 weeks I will have a baby.

Preparing For Parenthood

I am 29 years old but feel exactly the same as I did when I was 16. I still laugh at fart jokes for goodness sake! As a kid I believed that once you became an adult it was this major shift in perspective and outlook; that you just miraculously grew up and understood everything. Little did I know is that you are exactly the same, may have experienced more things and become a bit more mature but you are the same nonetheless, just in a body that is older, doing things that adults do.

Bringing someone else into this world is exciting and scary at the same time. To know that you are making a mini you with the person you love is extraordinary, but knowing that you need to bring the person up to be a good, respectful human being without actually knowing what you are doing is terrifying. All I can hope it is that I will grow and learn along the way and to be the best mum and wife I can be, to take my life experiences and teachings from my past and peers and continue to be the type of person I want to be….a confident mum.

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Pregnancy is Not as magical as I thought

The Blog is back and I can tell you a lot has changed. I am currently 20 weeks pregnant with the mini me scheduled to pop in Feb 2016 and it cannot come soon enough. “Oh how lovely” everybody seems to be saying to me as they reach to touch my ever so itchy and growing bump, but it has not been an ‘Oh so lovely’ few months, unless you consider laying on the bathroom flooring crying with puke in your hair to be lovely.

I wish I could say that pregnancy has been this magical ‘finding myself’ journey but I just can’t. Sorry to be blunt, but pregnancy SUCKS, it really SUCKS ASS! Those gorgeous women we see on magazine covers that manage to make their bump look like an accessory to their outfit, with gorgeous glowing skin and perfect hair are liars or superwomen sent to make us normal people feel like utter crap!

“Sorry to be blunt, but pregnancy SUCKS”

Don’t get me wrong I am more than overjoyed and anxious to meet my little one but the side effects of pregnancy took me totally by surprise, I have never understood why no one seems to talk about the negative side of pregnancy.

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For some people being pregnant is bliss, look at my sister in law to be for example, when pregnant told me she didn’t feel any different, except a little bit more hungry. She breezed through her pregnancy and at the end of it was able to walk out of the hospital in her size 10 jeans!!!! WOW I thought watching her, I could easily do this!

So my plan went as follows. I’d eat super healthy, attend pregnancy Yoga and Pilates classes and be zen, continue working and building my empire until I was ready to pop, and be a fabulously dressed socialite! Hahaha what do they say, You make plans and god laughs? Yep he got me!

Eating healthy for the first 4 months was a joke, as everything i tried to ingest came back up between 5 to 15 times a day, including water! Yes seriously WATER!!!! the only thing I could keep down was junk food, I am still to attend a yoga class but as it seems every time I try to book the class I am taken over with either horrible nausea or extreme tiredness.

Continue working? There are only so many times you can vomit and pee on yourself at work without them calling you in to say ‘ Maybe we should call it quits’. Yes Pee on yourself! It happens a lot! The day my husband to be innocently suggested I start wearing nappies was the day he almost died!

“There are only so many times you can vomit and pee on yourself”

Fashionable socialite? Pleeeease, the days I am able to get out of the house and survive the many odours of people, food and shops without violently throwing up everywhere is when I am hit with extreme fatigue. My last attempt at buying clothes, my husband to be came in and found me slumped in a corner as I was too tired to continue. I still havent bought everything I need yet and I have been 3 times!

So all you women out there, struggling to look as fabulous as Miranda Kerr during your pregnancy please know you are not alone and not to beat yourself up over it. Pregnancy is hard, your body has been hijacked and there is no right or wrong way of doing it. Listen to your body, if chips and burgers is all you can keep down then by all means eat it.

Dont let anyone make you feel guilty, you and only you knows the rhythm of your body so do what you feel is right and tell everyone to BACK OFF. With all of this, there is one side effect to look forward to and that can bring a smile to my face no matter how I am feeling  – Feeling your baby kick for that brief second seems to make all the other symptoms worth it!

 

Kylie

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