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Maternity Outfits Haul

By Posted on 13 4 m read

I have a love hate relationship with maternity wear. I get that it is essential for the pregnant woman to be able to wear something comfortable that accommodates her growing bump. What I don’t get is why all of a sudden you go from chic in trend fashion options to frumpy bin bag dresses and flowery prints. It is almost like the world is telling you. ‘You have crossed over into the land of motherhood, you can no longer wear anything that compliments your figure or makes you look attractive. You are officially out of service and now must adhere to the frumpy mum cliche”.  *Eye Roll* 🙄 Totally not happening. I refuse to age 20 years just because I am pregnant! So I set out to search the net for some fashionable complimentary maternity outfits options. That don’t cost your whole months statutory pay and are of course practical and comfortable.

The Oversized Jumper

Maternity Outfits

This is probably my favourite look both outside and inside the house. A good jumper can go a long way. It can be  super easy and comfy to wear while mooching around the house AND can be very stylish when paired with the right accessories..Hello fedora hat! I personally tended to buying normal jumpers and just sized up but the jumper in the below photo is my first and only maternity jumper which I got from ASOS. And which is my favourite of all my jumpers at the moment.

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Bring On The Leggings

Legging have become my new best friend since i started outgrowing my normal jeans. I love that they are stretchy, ultra comfy and can actually make your legs look really shaped and slim (even when they are not). I have a few different designs which are all in the colour black just because I prefer that. However if you love colour then go crazy! I bought a maternity pack from Boohoo that had a basic black legging as well as a leather look which I absolutely adore! I also have a snake skin pair that I bought from Primark a long time ago and is still going strong. Despite being stretched out to the max!

 

Over the Bump or Under the Bump?

Maternity Outfits

There will come a time when you will need to ask yourself this question. It really is personal choice. I do think over the bump can be more comfortable when you are nearing the end of your pregnancy. However being rather petite, I found they were often ridiculously high and I felt like I could pull it over my head if I tried! At the moment I have one over the bump trouser pant and one under the bump jean that is still rather comfortable despite me being 33 weeks. We will see how I feel at 38 weeks.

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Maternity Shirts or not?

Maternity Outfits

A good loose shirt is alway a winner whether you are pregnant or not. Lucking I had some nice oversized shirts in my closet from Zara that are so ‘oversized’ that they manage to fit me still even with my belly. I also bought a checkered maternity shirt from Boohoo for my housemaid days.

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Sized up Tee & Basics

Maternity Outfits

I would recommend buying a few basics t-shirts and tops. I bought a pack of 2 long sleeve tops from boohoo which were super cheap and have lasted me right through my pregnancy. You can pair basic tops with just about anything so for me these are an essential part of your maternity wardrobe. Boohoo and Asos both sell packs of Tee’s or long sleeve tops at reasonable prices in different colours. I have also started wearing my husbands t-shirts, (much to his dismay 😂) as I am so close to the end I do not want to spend money on clothes I may not wear again. So if you are stuff with maternity option try buying a size up or hit the mens section.

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Another way to get more bang for your buck is to scour eBay for some second hand maternity clothes. I am of the mindset that I don’t want to spend too much on items I know I will not wear again. Unless I have another baby which is very unlikely. I would rather keep some dosh to update my wardrobe properly after baby is born. That is why places like Boohoo, Asos and H&M are great to get your hands on some cheap items while still looking like yourself for the next 9 months. Hope this has been helpful!

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30 Weeks Pregnant & My Fears of Life With Two

By Posted on 9 3 m read

Eek I cannot believe I am 30 weeks pregnant already. This time around seems to have flown by and before we know it we will be a family of four! I have not really been updating a lot about my pregnancy mostly because there hasn’t been much to report. Unlike my previous pregnancy with Gabriel, I feel completely normal and must confess that if it wasn’t for my massive bump. I would forget I was even pregnant. With that said now that we are a handful of weeks away until he or she will arrive. The  excitement and fear of the unknown is rearing its head and I can’t help but ask myself. How am I going to manage? 30 Weeks Pregnant & My Fears of Life With Two

The Guilt

As the time gets closer, I have started to feel a sense of guilt when I look at my little boy. I am not as energetic or as patient as I would like to be. And to be frank I just don’t want to be on the floor all day playing trains. So lately Gabriel has had to learn to play more independently and give me some peace. Which though i feel is a necessary step, makes me feel rather guilty. He is at an age where he wants my undivided attention. He wants to play non stop and vocalises his desires throughout the day. No matter how annoying it is. So I ask myself how am I going to split my time with two? How am I going to make sure that he does not feel neglected or replaced? While still tending to the needs of our newborn?

The Threenager and The Newborn

Gabriel has just recently turned 3 and WOW what an age this is. He is amazing in the sense that he can communicate very well and generally makes us laugh from the cute and cheeky little things he says. The downside? Is that he now argues back? Say what?

Everything now is a battle of wits and he is now asserting his own personality and independence. It is great that he is growing and learning how to be himself. It is not so great that he refuses to do even the most simple things. I fear how I will handle this while my husband is offshore AND I am feeding a newborn! As I am already at my wits end with his new found adolescent attitude. With lack of sleep and breastfeeding I just hope I do not snap.

No More Freedom?

Does this mean the end of our freedom and babysitting options? Babysitting one child is one thing, but looking after two is another? With all of my family in Australia and half of Lee’s in Harlow and Glasgow. I fear that our days as just a couple are over and that we may struggle to have those ever needed date nights. Or god forbid…a weekend away? So how do we make sure our marriage doesn’t take the hit? How do we still make sure to tend to each others needs?

Keeping Kylie

So the questions about managing time between my two children as well as my husband were on the top of my anxiety list. But then I though what about time for myself? Will I have the time to work out and get back into shape after baby number two? Will I still be able to juggle studying full time while keeping house and looking after the kids? How do I make sure that I do not lose myself and sabotage my mental health in the process?

All of these questions have been entering my mind. And though I know everything will be ok (after all people do it all the time all over the world). I cannot help but wonder. I guess time will tell and all I can do is try to prepare myself and my little family as much as possible. I am going to have to as organised as ever to make sure nothing/ no-one is neglected.  It is such a strange thing to feel completely excited about something and yet terrified at the same time. Bring on May! We have a hell of a year ahead of us!

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Pregnancy No 2 and Hyperemesis Gravidarum

By Posted on 2 3 m read

I am sure that a few of you have noticed the unscheduled absence on my blog and social media posts of late. Though I had been talking about new exciting projects, life had other plans for me. If you follow me on Instagram you would have found out why during the Christmas period. For those who don’t follow me (and seriously why aren’t you following me??) then ……..Ta da, I am pregnant and expecting our second born in May 2019.

Not As Blissful As I Had Hoped

Although now I am stable and happy with the progress of our little bean. I will admit that the start was a nightmare. I wish I could pretend to be like all those stylish beautiful mamas to be on instagram. Telling you about how #Blessed I am and how it is such a miracle. All while posing in gorgeous figure hugging dresses and high heels. But the reality for me was that I felt and looked like death for the first 4 months. Not only had i never experienced exhaustion to the point of not being able to lift myself off the couch. But my own body was literally starving me to death. Unfortunately I was one of the lucky few that was diagnosed with Hyperemesis Gravidarum.

If you followed my journey from my first pregnancy. Then you would know I suffered a similar fate with my first born. 6 months of nausea, extreme sensitivity to smells and vomiting at the time, felt like the worse thing in the world. It never occurred to me that it could be worse. To be fair a part of me is unsure if my sickness was actually worse. Or if it was made to feel worse because this time around I had a toddler to care for. I couldn’t sit and binge watch Netflix while snacking on crisps all day and napping when I needed to. All I know is that it was torture, and was one of the first times I let go of my pride and called my husband offshore to plead for help as I couldn’t cope.

More Than Morning Sickness

This time around I got to really understand how horrible this syndrome is and can be. I literally felt like my body was starving me. Everything I consumed was thrown up minutes later and the feeling of dehydration and being so thirsty was the worst I have ever experienced. I wanted water so badly but just could not keep it down. It got to the point where I woke with blood on my pillow as my lips were so chapped the skin was ripping and bleeding. Despite my stomach getting bigger the number on the scales decreased and I finally let go of my anti medication stance and went to the doctors.

While searching the internet for any bit of advice I realised just how bad it can be for some women. With some of them being starved so badly they go into organ failure and some have to eventually terminate their pregnancies. Reading some of the stories I felt somewhat blessed to not be as bad as others which helped perk me up and be grateful.

What broke my heart the most was my poor wee baby Gabriel. He began to understand very quickly that something was wrong and that I was not well enough to play and entertain him as usual. He would come and check on me, see my throwing up and would then go and play by himself for long periods of time, giving me no trouble at all.

I Am Now 22 Weeks Pregnant

Now I am 22 weeks and I thank god that it has subsided. I actually feel normal while being pregnant. Something I never thought I would experience, and can now enjoy the journey with my husband and little boy. We have decided to keep the sex a surprise for the big day and I look forward to getting back into my blog and sharing this journey with you.

Thank you to all of you who reached out and asked where I was during this time. It really meant a lot!

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Things I Still Haven’t Learnt At 30

By Posted on 17 4 m read

I remember when I was little. I had just assumed that once you turned a certain age you officially became an adult. It was like a switch. Turn 21 and the knowledge of the world was bestowed to you and you would then be a reliable self sufficient human being. However as I got older I quickly realised that no matter what age I seemed to reach there were no revelations. That I was still the same goofy kid laughing at fart jokes at the age of 30. Even when I become a mum nothing changed. I just had a lot more responsibility. How can I raise another human being when I still feel like I have a lot to learn. But I realised that that is is part of the journey and now instead of trying to be the perfect adult I embrace my childishness. So here are my things I still haven’t learnt at 30 (technically I am 32 but……..shut up)

How to do things in moderation.

I have always been a bit of a pig as a kid. I blame it on our Asian upbringing where the more you ate the better. But even as an adult I cannot seem to shake the bingeing. I cannot eat just a handful of crisps, I need to eat the whole packet. Or I cannot just watch one episode on Netflix I need to finish the series. It is a trait that I had hoped to have lost as I grew older and wiser but apparently not….

Ate wayyy too much Wiener Schnitzel

 

 

How to wipe someone else’s bum without dry retching

I have been a mother for approximate 2 and a half years. You would think I would get used to the nappy changing and bum wipes by now. Especially when you have a son that averages about 4 turds a day. But I am not used to it. I very often have to fight the urge to vomit as I frantically try and wipe the mess away trying not to get it on my fingers. Who said motherhood was glamourous??

How to cook the right amount of rice/ pasta

I seriously thought that I would be the Australia/ Asian version of Betty Crocker by now. The amazing mum who knows how to cook up the perfect storm. But one trick that I can’t seem to master is the art of cooking to perfect amount of rice or pasta. I either cook too little leaving everyone wanting more. Or cook enough to feed my family plus the whole of Africa.

How to NOT burn my face, hand or other body part while styling my hair

If you follow me on facebook then you might remember my post about burning the whole side of my face with a curling iron. And trust me that was not the first time. I have burnt my forehead, cheek, hands and fingers and had marks on face that lasted over a year! But somehow I do not seem to learn and continue to curl my hair and burn myself. How do you all do it??

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How to understand directions like ‘Go west’ or “walk about 200 yards/metres”

When I ask for directions I want simple layman terms or for you to walk me there. However if you start using phrases like “go west” or ‘take a right turn in 200 yards”. chances are I am going to be lost forever. The worse part is that I will be too embarrassed to tell you I don’t know which way is west or I don’t know how far a yard is. And I will smile and nod like a understand while I am panicking like crazy in the inside.

How to have to will power to ‘get fit’

I often have the prep talk with myself. I think I have had it ever since I was born. Be healthy, go to the gym, get a six pack. I say it at every new year and on a lot of Mondays but one thing I have been consistent with is not doing it. I am yet to experience what it is like to have a six pack. And now will the baby weight still lingering I am not sure I will….I will start on Monday.

So there you have it. Even though I am technically an adult. That I am a mother and raising a little man (god help him). I still have not quite mastered the whole adulting thing. I am not the perfect picture of a mature lady. The perfect ‘in the box’ mother that I feel I am meant to be. I sometimes don’t even know how to be my own gender (cue in fart jokes and boy like behaviour). But I am ok with that. I am learning to be the perfect version of myself and that person is not perfect at all and you don’t have to be either.

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#HotLikeAMother : Meet Aberdeen Mums Turning Fashion Into Business

#HotLikeAMother is the new blog series created by Confidently Kylie that looks to break the barriers and expectations of Motherhood. Too often we hear that when you become a mother you must conform and sacrifice who you are and become the perfect picture of a frumpy, homemaking woman of the 50’s. But I call Bull Shit. Society’s expectations often brings mothers down. Making them feel like they are no longer relevant. At Confidently Kylie, we are here to bring mothers up and inspire mums to embrace their inner fire.

In this series I will be interviewing and getting to know some of the UK’s most kick ass mums. From inspiring boss babes, to stylish fashionistas, to just damn right inspirational mothers. All in the quest to encourage mums to go for their passions and be Hot Like A Mother…….

If you would like to be featured or know someone who should then please contact me at Kylie@ConfidentlyKylie.com

MEET OCTOBERS HOT MUMS

Two friends, two mumpreneurs taking their passion for fashion to a whole other level. Kate and Claire are the founders and owners of up and coming personal styling service Coveted Styling. When I first met Kate and Claire I was immediately drawn to the duo. Not only for their impeccable style but also for their down to earth “mumsyness”. Their friendly nature and relatable characters immediately put me at ease and I felt like I could discuss anything and everything with them over a cup of tea. I spoke to Kate and Claire about Fashion, being a mum and their business.

 

Fashion is definitely one of my passions too. What made you start Coveted Styling?

Kate: Our friendship developed very quickly when we discovered we were both obsessed with fashion. We used to spend a lot of time talking to each other about clothes. About what to wear to certain parties or events we had on, that hasn’t changed! Instagram played a big part in it as we started following other stylists, loved what they did for other women and so decided to go for it. We did a styling course with The Image Consulting Company in Bristol which was brilliant. We even registered Coveted Styling while we were there!
Claire : We were both at a time in our lives where we wanted to do something for us. I was on maternity leave and Kate’s boys were at school & Nursery. We wanted to do something we love, as well as helping other women to feel good about themselves.

Both of you are mums and seem to be juggling a lot.  How do you keep on top of running a business, looking stylish plus the everyday challenges of motherhood?

Kate: Sometimes I get to the end of the day and feel like I’ve achieved loads and other days I feel the total opposite!  So I do try to be organised, l make a list every night of what has to be done the next day. I try to plan my outfits the night before so it’s one less thing to worry about before the madness of the school run. Also having the school uniform ironed and ready to go every morning helps but doesn’t always go to plan! That way I feel slightly in more control!
Claire: I also work Part-Time, so for me organisation is key! I like to plan my week so everyone knows whats happening and when. However we both have a strong support network that helps us out.

 

So many mums find it difficult to find the time to look after themselves. What are your style tips to make being fashionable effortless and accessible?

Claire : Try not to overthink it, don’t worry about following particular trends. Invest in good quality wardrobe staples that make you feel good and can be worn with lots of other items in your wardrobe.
Kate: If you don’t want to spend lots of money on the new ‘on trend’ items we suggest choosing some accessories which can update your outfits in an instant. Leopard print is huge this season but some ladies are a bit scared of it. So you could start off small with a belt or bag and see how you feel. It’s a way to be on trend without going head-to-toe if you’re not sure. Belts are a great accessory to have in your wardrobe too, whether for jeans or a dress/skirt they can really add something extra with minimal effort.

High Street or High End?

Kate: We are both fans of both. The high street is amazing and gets better all the time in terms of quality and value for money. I do love high end things such as bags and shoes though for that little bit of luxury sometimes. But the high street is fab at creating their own versions making it very accessible.
Claire: I like to invest in key staple items such as handbags, shoes & Coats. But the high street is my go-to for every day style.
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Where are your favourite places to shop?

Claire: We are big online shoppers as we love the comfort of our own homes. Plus it is more convenient for busy mums like ourselves. I love ASOS has it has the variety of brands, styles, price range, shoes & accessories. I also love Topshop & Warehouse
Kate: ASOS like Claire, as they have so much and you can often buy a whole outfit from there. Their next day delivery is fab! River Island is my go-to for footwear and I love Zara and New Look for their on trend pieces without spending a fortune. But I also really love finding new brands and boutiques on instagram, buying things you maybe wont get in the normal places.

Confidently Kylie is all about being Confidently You. How do you stay confident and true to yourself when us mums tend to do everything for everyone else?

Claire : Make up! Not a full face, but a bit of concealer and highlighter to cover the eye bags! I also have short hair, so I like to make sure I give it a good blow dry.  I don’t have the ease of popping it up in a Mum bun!
Kate: We have days when we don’t always feel good about ourselves. Especially if i’m a rush to get out of the house or everything is going wrong! I love make up like Claire but the one thing I can’t go without is having my nails and toes done regularly. I’ve also got back into exercise recently and  it’s definitely something that gives me a boost of confidence and makes me feel good about myself!
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What advice would you give to mums who feel like they have lost themselves in the whirlwind of motherhood?

Claire : Just having some me time is important, so when you get the chance you should take it! I think it’s important to take time out to do things which you did before becoming a mummy. For me that is spending time catching up on my favourite blogs, or going into town and having a look around the shops.
Kate: Try and do some of the things you did before becoming a mum. Things that always seemed so simple but not so easy now! But also just enjoy it. Now both my boys are at school I’ve realised how quickly the time has gone and I’m kind of missing the whirlwind!!

Last but not least, What are your go to style items and why?

Claire: I have about 10 variations of a Breton top in my wardrobe! I can’t get enough… they are perfect for Mum days. Can be dressed up with a maxi skirt over the weekend or pop a blazer over it. Or why not over jeans and a heel for a smarter feel. It’s a wardrobe staple which will always be in style.
Kate: My go to style items can vary quite a lot but I do like anything that can be worn every season. I just change how I wear them. In summer I lived in shirt dresses, I have quite a few from New Look! They are so easy and comfy to wear. I can carry on wearing them throughout autumn/winter with ankle boots and my leather biker jacket. But I am also a massive fan of a shacket, slogan t-shirt, cropped jeans and sneakers for everyday running about. The one thing that never changes is my obsession with cross-body handbags as they go with everything in my wardrobe!
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You can check out Coveted Stylings Instagram Page here and their facebook page here to book them for a personal styling experience

If you would like to feature  or you know someone who would be perfect for it. Then contact me at Kylie@confidentkylie.com

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My Top Things To Do & See In Berlin

By Posted on 18 4 m read

Since having my little boy over 2 years ago, I thought that adult trips away were a thing of the past. But when my brother announced that he was planning a trip to Germany and that I should join him. I could not resist. As many of you probably already know, my whole family live in Australia. Perth to be exact. Family weekends away in another country were just not feasible when I was growing up. So the thought of exploring a new country with my brother was beyond exciting. We could party hard, explore a new culture and catch up all at once. Plus I had never been to Germany and had heard so many good things about it. So I booked my flights and had a 4 day weekend in Berlin. Here are My Top Things To Do & See In Berlin.

 

The Berlin Wall

Berlin

One of the first things I was keen to see was the Berlin Wall. After watching Bridge of Spies not that long ago, I was intrigued by this part of German history. That was scarily not that long ago. There are only a handful of sites in Berlin where the original wall still remains. The most famous are Check Point Charlie and The East Side Gallery.

The East Side Gallery was something I had on my to do list and was my first stop when I arrived. Mostly because of the controversial and widely famous art works. It is a huge tourist area and I would recommend getting there early to avoid the crowds and get the pictures you want. I was both impressed and underwhelmed with the gallery. The gallery itself is very long and after a few miles we stopped and turned back. There are only a small number of really good art to see despite the wall being covered. And the crowds of people were too much.

What was impressive was to see the actual wall. There were two walls built with a space in the middle of them called “The Death Zone’. Near the East Side Gallery they have a part where both walls still stand. It is eerie visiting it and knowing the turmoil many people suffered trying to escape.

 

Holocaust Memorial & Nazi Museum

I had seen pictures of this memorial on the internet and thought it was essential to check it out. I was not disappointed. The memorial is a work of art unlike anything else. It is not only clever and unique but is also haunting and thought provoking. Designed by Peter Eisenman, the site covers 19 000 square metres with 2711 concrete slabs of different heights spread across it. It is a beautiful place of remembrance and is open 24/7. I think it set the tone very well and really evokes an emotional response.

If you are interested in how the Nazi Party was able to take over Germany, then you need to visit The Typography of Terrors. It is a museum dedicated to Nazi Germany and starts from the very beginning to the end. It is a very disturbing at the same time informative museum and leaves you in disbelief at how it all happened. I was impressed at how open they were about their past without shying away from questions about why the German people at the time fell under the nazi spell.

 

Brandenburg Gate

Probably the most famous monument in Berlin. The Brandenburg Gate is another must see attraction. However the gate is more than just a neoclassical structure which had it’s Quadriga stolen by Napolean. It is a symbol of a united Berlin after the Cold War and fall of the Berlin Wall. When I first saw the gate, it was the finish line for the Berlin Marathon and was swarmed with proud runners taking pictures with their medals. But when I returned later in the night I saw just how beautiful and symbolic it can be. I would suggest visiting it in the evening as the sunset makes the lights around it very spectacular.

 

House of Small Wonders

For me a very important part of travelling is food. I always want to visit the best places for food and drink and I make sure to do some research before I go. One cafe that was an absolute must for me was The House of Small Wonders. This quirky little cafe is unlike any other. It looked like it should have been set in a Tim Burton movie. The plants hanging off the wall, the vintage props everywhere and the menu inside a book all made this cafe an instagrammers heaven. The Food was also quirky as I tasted steamed eggs and an apple cider smoothie for the first time! I would definitely recommend it for anyone looking for something different and photo worthy.

After a great few days exploring with my brother I was eager to get home to my baby. It is funny how we crave getting away yet miss them as soon as we leave. Overall I enjoyed Berlin and can’t wait to explore more of Germany in the future.

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