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My Battle With My Mummy Tummy & Body Image

As women I think we all have bad days when we don’t like what we see in the mirror. There are days when you feel good and are oozing confidence and then there are days when…well you are not. I seem to be having the NOT oozing confidence day every day now. I’m a lot heavier than I would like to be and I just don’t feel good in my body. I look and feel like a completely different person than I did 3 years ago and it makes me feel like I am completely losing myself. My battle with my mummy tummy is consuming me and it is affecting my life and happiness.

Belly Donut

The day I realised I could grab the fat from my belly and make a belly donut was both a depressing yet strangely amusing day. Grabbing my belly donut has become a daily ritual. It is now my own built in stress ball. I cannot seem to walk past a mirror without doing it and it makes me want to laugh and cry at the same time. Talk about losing your identity. What is worse is that my mind still hasn’t really caught up with the idea that I am no longer a size 6/8. It still pictures itself as the Pre-gabriel confident and thin Kylie. Then gets shocked when it sees a picture of my arms side on and how they seem to engulf and eat my whole body. Wtf? I can picture and plan out outfits that i am convinced will make me look like a bombshell only to put it on and look like a walking potato.  Who am I?

Homebakes and Belly Shakes

It doesn’t help that since having Gabriel I have developed an unhealthy attachment to sugar & food. That my desire to be the modern day Martha Stewart has got me baking every week. Then stuffing my face with said bakes. Being an at home mum means that I have access to food at all times and the stress of daily battles with a toddler, while studying makes me want to eat the whole pantry. People come up to me and they don’t get it. They say “oh you are not fat, You look great” and I cant help but sigh. Yes i may not be rolling when walking but you have not seen me in my underwear. Plus I am sure that they HAVE noticed that I am 10kgs heavier and that they are just too polite to say otherwise or they are in the same boat and feel secretly relieved that they are not the only one. (don’t worry, I get it)


So what do I do? Do I accept that this is my fate, that I gave birth (2 years ago), that I am getting older and this is part of the territory? That curvy is “in” right now and I should make the #BellyDonut Movement to encourage everyone to embrace their bodies no matter what it looks (or feels) like? Or do I get up and throw belly donut into boot camp. Tell him he is no longer welcome and get myself back to a place where I feel happy in my body? Where the picture of my self in my mind is actually aligned with reality?

Though I do believe that we should love our bodies the way they are. I also believe you should look after them and do what it takes to feel confident.  For me it is an on going battle. It’s not just about weight and the number on the scale, nor it is about trying to meet societal expectations that women face these days. It is about feeling good in your body and skin, about feeling good about being you. It is easy to make excuses. Lets face it motherhood is hard especially when you are working or studying as well as raising kids and keeping house. However we can’t lose ourselves and who we are because of the kids. We should set an example for our kids that looking after ourselves is essential to living a happy and fulfilling life and also for everyone around us.

A Fashion lover, An Optimist and a mum of two little boys! I am the every girl turned Modern Mum.

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  • lizchapmanonline


    I also have the same ongoing battle. I’m not overweight however I don’t appreciate the roll that goes over my jeans when I sit down. My internal struggle is I’m 40 is this just how it is now or should I be doing something different.

    July 13, 2018
  • As a mom, we have ups and downs. But yeah, kids look up to us. I believe I should try take good care of myself so that I can also take care of my kids.

    July 13, 2018
  • Deeksha Tripathi


    I completely loved this post as I am myself going through the same tough time having a big belly and feeling guilty about it…felt so good to know that there are so many moms like me out there…

    July 13, 2018
  • I cannot even begin to tell you how much I relate. The battle is real! And sometimes I do think the body acceptance movement does more harm than good. I am obviously not happy with my body or treating it correctly. Not to mention the example that overeating sets for my kids. So I battle onward. Keep up the good fight, I’m right there with you!

    July 13, 2018
  • Self care is so important here. Not only our body but our minds too. Mind shouldn’t get too obsessed about the body.

    July 14, 2018
  • I haven’t had kids yet, but I think you should be proud of that amazing accomplishment. I totally agree about the importance of feeling happy in your own skin and I think that is connected to how well we treat ourselves. Some chapters of life are more difficult than others though. 🙂

    July 14, 2018
  • Love your post – I think that all women at some point in their lives goes through this kind of identity or struggle. Finding a good balance between feeling how we think we should look and being healthy is something to think about. I’m going through this phase as well and am working on healthier habits such as exercise, drinking more water, keeping positive, and learning creative ways to cook healthy foods. Know your not alone and love yourself for being a great mom.

    July 15, 2018
  • Thank you for this. Over the years, I have learned to love my mummy tummy. I have never been happier.

    July 15, 2018
  • I had baby number four just over 2 months ago! I know it takes a while to get into the swing of things, but I just feel it’s way slower as I get older and the more I have. I’m done having kids, but I struggle seeing my body as anything but a mom! Great post!

    July 16, 2018
  • I have the same problem. After the baby, no matter what I did, I couldn’t get rid of that mummy tummy. It was only when I went to physi al therapist I found out I had diastasis recti – it’s
    a muscle separation. I had a gap between my abdominal muscles above and bellow my belly button – 4 fingers wide! My therapist told me that many times this is the cause of mummy tummy.

    September 7, 2018
  • I can totally relate to this. I am having a hard time staying fit and healthy while I am pregnant. Your post have really helped me realize that I am not alone in this battle. Thank you for sharing this!

    March 6, 2019

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